There are things floating around that have little or nothing to do with the Bible.Most are well intended and contain a nugget of truth. Dating is hard enough without sifting through all this erroneous information, so let's debunk some myths.There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.Myth #1: "God has one woman picked out for you to marry.One glance at the numerous books about love, dating, and marriage suggests that we're making a lot of this up as we go along.Of course, there are biblical principles that are essential in dating.Once they've done that, God increases his sustaining presence.I'm not saying that God doesn't have a will regarding your dating life.
There were courtship rituals in place, but nothing that looks like what we consider dating today.German theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer addresses this issue in a wedding sermon he wrote for his sister from a Nazi jail cell.He says that God joins the relationship between a man and a woman at the point of marriage.All they have to do is sit back and enjoy the ride.
This may be the biggest excuse men use for being lazy in relationships, much less finding one.
The church has reached a difficult crossroads when it comes to pre–marriage romance.